To Dom or Not to Dom: Sex Worker Switches

I hesitate to write this blog because some folks can't comprehend the concept of polarity: Every aspect of humanity and the universe at large has two sides. Not many SWers feel they can be open about their switchy identity due to the fear of losing clients who think that a true domme only enjoys taking control. If we're being honest, humans are multifaceted but SWer's need to market ourselves to a specific niche, which often ends in us dulling our colors to make money and support ourselves.

Yes, I dom and sub, both professionally and in my personal life. Many a dominatrix I know is a sub in her personal life, with a Daddy "taking care of her." They wouldn't dare speak this out loud to clients or on social media because their clients are strictly subs and it isn't conducive to business to turn off clients.

Pro-sub work is, additionally, very dangerous. The stories of assault I've heard from providers who professionally sub is terrifying. Yet, they continue on which makes me question whether this is truly a masochistic, self-sabotaging endeavor but that's not for me to know. Providers who do pro-sub charge 1k+ minimums due to the rarity of pro-subs and the risky sessions.

Many of my clients are subs and yes, I may scare a few off by admitting the truth: Your girl, at times, likes to call some men Daddy. Eww, I know. How cringe.

As I've always said: Your cringe is my orgasm.

I also love it when my subs honor me by worshiping my Divinity and refer to me as Mommy, Mistress, or Goddess because I simultaneously embody all of these identities. However, the role I enjoy playing depends on my mood and my current partner. If he truly embodies a Daddy dominant energy, and I'm attracted to his energy, I then have no interest in topping him. Moods shift and I'm not always in a domme mood.

If my partner truly embodies sub energy and it arouses him to be my plaything, penetrated in every way possible, then I wouldn't be aroused by subbing for him. Does this make sense?

Many humans enjoy control: Both submitting to the control of others and giving it up, with consensual boundaries firmly in place. Power games make the world go round.

The Fourth Hermetic Principle of Polarity is glaringly on display during many of my domme sessions. Some of my most passionate subs top from the bottom, attempting to control every tiny movement and head tilt of the tango we dance during a BDSM session. Subs can be the most restless control freaks, often powerful business men who desperately crave relinquishing control to a very specific type of woman.

I'm the one handcuffing them and "forcing" them to do heathenish deeds but they're sure to let me know if I'm not domming them in the ways that they prefer.

So many SWers are true switches like myself because we're open minded, confident, able to set boundaries and explore. A long time ago, I discovered that wow, giving up a bit of control, getting into dirty talk and calling him Daddy sure gets those nether regions a-tingling.

I, conversely, cherish watching a beautiful sub stare up at me, his Goddess, as I force him to worship at my Altar and serve me by submitting to my every desire. Restraining and controlling a normally powerful man who enjoys being dominated is a huge turn on.

I feel as though I have the freedom to discuss being a switch because many of my clients are strictly vanilla. They don't care if I'm a domme or sub during other sessions, they just want a genuine companion during the time we're together. Additionally, I know that being myself draws more people to me in a world that's full of synthetic manipulation and lies. Complexity is a huge turn on for many of my admirers.

I have just as much fun and am just as aroused during a vanilla, domme or pro-sub session but my arousal really depends on the energy of my partner.

That said, I never allow myself to be fully restrained with a partner. Sorry, but, if I don't know you, I'm not letting you handcuff me. That takes time to work up to and definitely won't happen during your first session with me, if ever. I'm more into mind games, Daddy doms, hair pulling and being held down when discussed beforehand. A soft sub, if you will.

The next time you see that powerful, latex clad domme serving resting bitch face on Bluesky, consider the possibility that she calls someone Daddy and enjoys being tied up. Or don't, if it'll ruin the fantasy for you.

For those interested, sessions in which I sub require a larger donation that only screened clients are privy to. I also do more intense screening for pro-sub sessions.

Warning: If you book a regular companionship appointment and try to top me (AKA possibly assault me) without paying my higher pro-sub rate and emailing me beforehand to set up a sub session, I will tase you, end the session and take your money. Don't play with me.

Just kidding! I totally don't own four pink tasers that I keep hidden on my person and in my incall locations, fully charged and waiting for the testicles of a predator.

I can be your angel... or your devil.